Acceptance!

 

I first thought, when exactly do we start to strive for acceptance?

Is it when we are born?

Is it when we first feel the pain of non-acceptance?

Is it when we start to have challenges in sports?

Is it when we fall into the always-mentioned “peer pressure”?

Is it when we fall in love?

Is it when we start a new job?

Is it when we become a new member of a family?

Is it when we move to a new city or a new country?

Was it when we wrote our first book?

I think it's all of the above, when people feel the need to be accepted, they will take giant strides to be successful in this quest.

Athletes and bodybuilders will take drugs to win ... win = acceptance.

When we fall in love, our whole being wanted to feel accepted by our partner.

Authors will spend hours and hours writing the exact words to please their readers and will do their best to publish their creations.

Becoming a new member of a family, whether through marriage or adoption, will create the need to be nurtured like someone who truly belongs.

Starting a new job is a need for definitive acceptance, we must integrate ourselves in order to be able to relax and devote ourselves 100% to our work.

Moving to a new country or a new city, or even just a new neighborhood, is a huge challenge for us and being accepted and integrated is a very important step in our adaptation.

Let's not forget “peer pressure” which is difficult, children just starting high school suffers the most, hormones change and their emotions are very sensitive. The fears you have struggled with over the past year are prominent and have a lot of reality to deal with. Fitting in and being accepted by your peers is more than half the battle.

Being a baby has a world of the need to be accepted and to see our parents smile when we make them happy.

The pain of not accepting for the first time cut like a knife. It hurts us for life, creating a scar that we grow up with forever.

All of these concerns, needs and wants are within each of us who live and breathe. Some of us crave acceptance less than others. Some of us cannot live without acceptance, we are obsessed with our thinking, trying all we can to fit in.

Do you read the words "self esteem" in everything I have written here today? Yes, and it's in every sentence. The need for acceptance affects our self-esteem in one way or another, which in turn affects our emotional stability leading to jealousy, worry and anxiety. If you know the feeling of non-acceptance or low self-esteem then you know how controlled you are by the worry that follows and how much of your life is imprisoned by this other spirit.

Low self-esteem and non-acceptance are just that, "another spirit" and you can really feel them at war. It reminds me of the good devil and bad devil scenario. Believe me, this is no fun for the person who is imprisoned for it, not only does she have to balance the two minds, but she also has the guilt she feels when she sees what the outcome of the battle is doing in her head. to the people around them. The constant questions we are faced with as in my blog FEELINGS !!!! they are an additional pain for the lonely and tortured person.

So if anyone knows someone who suffers from non-acceptance or low self-esteem, hug them and try to be more patient and understand that they are not having a picnic and that if they just say "enough" or "don't think about it" I could stop it, they would in the blink of an eye. We all need support and acceptance to get through our lows.

I do what I can through my website and blog to help educate people and help them understand what low self-esteem is and how intense and serious it is. If any of you have any questions, please feel free to contact me or leave me a comment and I will do my best to answer them.